Over the past couple of days I've felt a sense of unease. As I tried to recognize the problem I thought about many matters, and after 2-3 days I have come to some answers.
Walk away from your crutches, even though its your best buddy
I am fortunate enough to have a great best friend in San Diego. But, it is crucial that you be aware of when you must walk your path. Often times, we lean on the shoulders of the others, and in the process, neglect to learn that which we ought to learn to do ourselves. For example, I'm constantly hanging out together with him, and we play video games. This is excellent fun, but recently after our LA trip I've felt a feeling of waste after playing games. I flashed my Heroes of the Storm bnet accounts and now I have far more free time on my hands. So the lesson is, find out when you have to develop your own strength, and also have the courage to walk away jak zagadać do obcej dziewczyny from your very best friend. He/she will understand, that you need the time to yourself to develop inner strength.
I have also discovered that my day pick up skills are much better, and that I tend to do better on my own. Sometimes, you need to go out there and see the world for yourself, rather than resenting others for"holding you back", when in actuality, you're the one which's doing it!
Seeing the silver lining in all
As a child, I used to believe that if I am learning the piano at the afternoon, all the other children are out there playing in the golden sunset! No! I felt a sense of loss! Yet, nowadays, I am grateful on a few nights when I could just be in the office and work to my heart content. Only me and my job. Occasionally I might feel like that is lonely and it is, but that is the way it is for today, and I have learned to view it as a boon, I get to hangout with my friends when I need to, and possess my own time without being stressed by work or personal obligations.
Being cool with no"trying"
I have leverage the ability to be present thanks to Ekhart Tolle and I have noticed that when I am relaxed and unstressed, I have an open vibe. People today talk to me personally. "What is that you're buying?" "Hey this elevator is slow huh?" I believe that on weekdays, since many people are worried, an unstressed, open energy translates well in contrast to all of the pent up energy that people see everyday. I am lucky enough to have financial freedom at this point in my life, and I will continue to station a cool, open vibe, even though I'm working hard on the job. When we judge other people, in some ways we're also coping with our own demons. Live and let live. Your presence of light is sufficient -- which alone could sustain you and put in love to the world. Occasionally our self gets in the way, and blinds us from the flicker and magnificent of what is there to start with.
Strive for the finest, decision free of others
I used to judge others or"hate on them" when they are useless to my objectives. I realized now this is the incorrect way to look at the world. Everybody is in their journey. In many ways, my negativity towards them was really at myself at my inability to make things work. I should have sought out aid sooner, or acknowledged that I had to meet new people, rather than resenting my friends. You can't always change someone, however you can always love them.
It is okay to be an asshole, sometimes our mistakes instruct us how to arrive at the right solution
In order for me to "find peace".
Or reach a point of acceptance, I needed to go through pain. The pain helps you reach a point (hopefully) of throwing away the baggage of their self.
Intimate relationships, savor all of the life has to offer you.
While I used to go for the hottest girls, I now want the deepest relationships in every area of my own life. Am I drawn to beautiful women? Absolutely. But my fascination today is more than only a physical one. I find myself losing charm for superficial beauty, and more in tune with inner beauty.
I'm still drawn sexually to superficial beauty, but in terms of my relationships and an-ongoing type of scenario, I see myself valuing a beautiful woman who has great inner qualities too.